gray divorce, Wheaton divorce lawyersMore and more older couples are getting divorced in the United States. The divorce rate for people aged 50 and over has doubled since 1990, and more than doubled for those over the age of 65. There are several reasons that may explain why so called “gray divorce” is becoming more common. Firstly, there is far less stigma surrounding divorce than there was even just a few decades ago. Just as younger people do, older individuals want to pursue the life that makes them fulfilled and happy. Sometimes, this means ending a marriage. Gray divorce can come with significant complications, however, and it is critical that those getting divorced at an advanced age educate themselves about what to expect.

Spousal Support Is Often Ordered When a Long-Term Marriage Ends

Illinois courts consider several factors when making spousal maintenance (alimony) decisions. These factors include:

  • The duration of the marriage;
  • Income and property of each party;
  • Present and future earning capacity of each party;
  • Any Impairment to a spouse’s present/future earning capacity;
  • Whether or not the party seeking spousal maintenance can become self-supporting;
  • Standard of living established during the marriage;
  • Health, ages, income, and employability of each spouse;
  • Any contributions a spouse makes to the other’s education or career;
  • Tax consequences; and
  • Any other relevant factors.

Divorcing couples are encouraged to make their own decisions about spousal support. If a couple cannot come to an agreement about spousal maintenance payments, the court will make these decisions for the couple. According to the law in Illinois, the court may only award spousal support if there is a valid reason to do so. Each case is handled on an individual basis.

Property Division Can Be Complex

Often, older people or those who have been married long periods of time have greater assets than younger divorcing couples. As with spousal support, couples are encouraged by Illinois courts to divide their property on their own. Courts will intervene if a divorcing couple cannot agree to how they will divide marital property. In Illinois, dividing a couple’s marital assets and liabilities falls under the concept of equitable distribution. Complex assets like family business, stock options, real estate and bank accounts, cars and other vehicles, life insurance policies, retirement plans, pensions, stock options, restricted stock, deferred compensation, and brokerage accounts can significantly complicate a divorce.

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If you have further questions about an Illinois divorce, contact the experienced DuPage County divorce lawyers at Stock, Carlson, Oldfield & McGrath LLC. Call 630-665-2500 to schedule a consultation today. We can provide the guidance and representation you need.


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custody, Wheaton family lawyersIf you are an Illinois parent who is considering ending your marriage through divorce, you probably have many questions about what the custody process will look like. Child custody and visitation are called the allocation of parental responsibilities and parenting time in the law. Illinois courts will always do what they believe to be in the best interest of the child when it comes to decisions about parental responsibility and guardianship. Except in cases involving domestic violence or child abuse, it is assumed that having both parents involved in the child’s life is the ideal custody scenario.

Does the Court Always Decide Custody?

Unmarried parents or divorcing parents who wish to share custody of minor children are required to create a “parenting agreement” or parenting plan. This plan outlines what is expected from each parent in terms of custody, visitation, and involvement in the child’s upbringing. The court only intervenes when parents cannot reach such an agreement about parental responsibilities and parenting time.

Do Children Have a Say in Custody Decisions?

The answer to whether or not children can decide who they live with varies case by case. Courts are more likely to consider the desires of older children who can give a good reason for why they wish to live with a certain parent. Ultimately, the court will make the custody decision based on what is in the child’s best interest.

Does Illinois Law Favor Mothers Over Fathers in Terms of Child Custody?

Illinois law does not favor a child’s mother over the other parent. Instead, the courts wills consider the following factors when determining a custody order:

  • The custody desires of the parents;
  • Each parent’s mental and physical health;
  • Which parent has traditionally been the child’s primary caretaker;
  • The relationships between the parents and the child;
  • Whether the parents can cooperate and collaborate with each other;
  • The living arrangements of the parents;
  • Any allegations of abuse; and
  • Whether or not either of the parents is a registered sex offender.

This list is not exhaustive and Illinois courts may consider other factors not listed here when deciding custody.

Can a Parent with Mental Illness or Substance Abuse Issues Get Custody of their Child?

Having a mental illness such as bipolar disorder or major depression does not automatically disqualify parents from having custody of their children. The same is true for substance abuse or addiction issues. However, Illinois courts will not assign custody to a parent who they believe cannot provide a safe and loving home.

Contact an Experienced DuPage Family Law Attorney

If you have further questions about child custody in Illinois, reach out to the highly skilled Wheaton, Illinois divorce lawyers at Stock, Carlson, Oldfield & McGrath LLC. Call 630-665-2500 today to schedule a consultation with our team of dedicated professionals.



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Wheaton divorce attorneysMoney troubles are not uncommon among divorcing couples. In fact, a recent study on the money habits of married couples found that finances were the main stressor in 35 percent of all relationships. Statistics also show that an alarming number of people hide debt, money, and large purchases from their significant other; as many as 7.2 million Americans are hiding money from their spouse, and approximately 6 percent of married persons say they have a secret credit card or bank account that their spouse does not know about.

Sadly, all this hidden debt and money can come back to haunt a couple that breaks down and decides to divorce. In some cases, it may even leave parties with massive amounts of debt that can only be relieved through bankruptcy. How should you proceed if this is your situation?

The answer to that question depends on a number of factors – everything from the toxicity of your current situation to you and your spouse’s income and amount of marital debt.

Understanding Why You Cannot File for Bankruptcy and Divorce at the Same Time

While it might seem easier to complete both the divorce and bankruptcy process at the same time, the courts will not allow the cases to overlap. That is because bankruptcy may require a temporary freeze or hold on your assets; the divorce process requires that you disburse those assets in an equitable manner. In short, the two processes are counterintuitive when done at the same time. As such, parties will need to decide whether they should file for bankruptcy first, or if  it might be best to proceed with the divorce process and then file for bankruptcy, independently, once the divorce has been finalized.

Filing for Bankruptcy First versus Filing for Divorce First 

When divorcing parties are in an amicable situation, it is often preferred that they proceed first with the bankruptcy process, and then the divorce. The reasoning for this is simple: filing for bankruptcy first simplifies the divorce process and saves the parties money because they are filing jointly, rather than individually.

However, there are many situations in which it may not be appropriate to wait for the divorce. Examples might include situations involving domestic violence or the abuse of a child. Whatever your decision, it is important to ensure that you have a seasoned attorney on your side, protecting your interests during the divorce settlement process, and while negotiating with your creditors.

Contact Our Wheaton Family Law Attorneys

If debt is mounting and your relationship is ending, Stock, Carlson, Oldfield & McGrath, LLC is the firm to trust. Backed by more than 40 years of experience, our DuPage County divorce lawyers can help you determine which divorce path may be most appropriate for your situation. Call 630-665-2500 and schedule your consultation to get started.


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